tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316617410436977874.post5043894088023403970..comments2024-03-25T02:53:26.373-04:00Comments on Women in Crime Ink: What Would You Think?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316617410436977874.post-85283425311009166062010-04-27T15:04:22.184-04:002010-04-27T15:04:22.184-04:00I don't think you can really control your spon...I don't think you can really control your spontaneous emotional reactions but we can control how we express our reactions to others. I don't always remember to do so but it is best to think about something before commenting on it.Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02862216235066807651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316617410436977874.post-32090708874893871062010-04-27T14:39:56.911-04:002010-04-27T14:39:56.911-04:00I think there is a perfect balance somewhere betwe...I think there is a perfect balance somewhere between the reaction I had and instantly believing any accusations.Datinghttp://www.luvfree.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316617410436977874.post-7748697997003209862010-04-27T14:39:24.437-04:002010-04-27T14:39:24.437-04:00I like to think of myself as a compassionate perso...I like to think of myself as a compassionate person, but i have been guilty of jumping to a conclusion.Datinghttp://www.luvfreee.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316617410436977874.post-5739315394594771062009-03-02T21:27:00.000-05:002009-03-02T21:27:00.000-05:00You forgot the infamous Herbert R. Baumeister, the...You forgot the infamous <A HREF="http://www.skcentral.com/print.php?type=A&item_id=640" REL="nofollow">Herbert R. Baumeister</A>, the homosexual serial killer whose wife, Julie, refused to let police search her property because she couldn't believe her husband was guilty until her son, Erich, found in the family's wooded back yard, half buried, a complete human skeleton. Even then she accepted her husband's explanation!A Voice of Sanityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11285284153694191831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316617410436977874.post-47383739998265313982009-03-01T10:04:00.000-05:002009-03-01T10:04:00.000-05:00Exactly what fleastiff said.Exactly what fleastiff said.Rjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16580925465853642953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316617410436977874.post-61293566004396294002009-02-28T04:56:00.000-05:002009-02-28T04:56:00.000-05:00Many people are programmed to believe good things ...Many people are programmed to believe good things and to be trusting. Some are even brainwashed to believe that those who are good prosper because they are good and those who are evil perish because they are evil. This inculcated sense of trust is perhaps unwise. If you look to childrens nursery stories you often see lessons of distrust. Perhaps we need such lessons to teach distrust of all people not just the Wicked Witch of the West, the Big Bad Wold and the Evil Step-Mother. A con man knows that people tend to cling to a sense of trust even when they see clues that should be alarming them. We tend to make snap decisions regarding guilt when accusations are made. At the time of the McMartin Day Care hysteria or Wenatchee Witchhunt Trials, I'm sure that children who made legitimate accusations would have been initially thought of as lying. One doctor's wife refused to believe a female patient's accusations of rape against her husband and only began to have doubts about it when her own teenage daughter awoke to find a condom wrapper in her bed. A wife of a Spokane serial killer was amazed to learn of bodies being burried in her own garden. We tend to believe that evil is something that is remote from us. Life is so much more pleasant if don't lock doors and don't turn on burglar alarms and most of the time, nothing will happen. The naive person who so willingly trusts is often made to feel he is doing the right thing. For most of the time no evil happens when the door is unlocked and the alarm left off. Most of the time! So we learn to trust and tend to cling to it.FleaStiffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09837830811566745662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316617410436977874.post-75230109296058689032009-02-27T17:47:00.000-05:002009-02-27T17:47:00.000-05:00excellent article, Diane. well written, per usual....excellent article, Diane. well written, per usual. i like to think of myself as a compassionate person, but i have been guilty of jumping to a conclusion...later to find i was mistaken. <BR/>we are human...afterall.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10405768126519782257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316617410436977874.post-91440963921561205412009-02-27T15:32:00.000-05:002009-02-27T15:32:00.000-05:00I know I would feel a burden of loyalty to one of ...I know I would feel a burden of loyalty to one of my own. Our own, our families, they are all we really have in this world. They are what counts most, to most of us. We put our work, our time, our money and our hearts into these people we call family. And even those we call friends, I think we feel a certain loyalty too. How could we not STAND beside them, even to the very end. They are ours. <BR/><BR/>I know people that show signs of destructive behavior. Toward themselves, and toward others. But when you really think about it, what can we do. Can we go to the police station and say, so and so said they were going to kill so and so. Was so and so serious, or just venting? Would they really do such a thing? How can we know? If you went to the other person and told them so and so said that, would you be causing them undue stress and worry over something that someone said out of anger, alcohol or drug induced beligerance, never intending to do such a thing? If I tried to do something about it every time I heard something like that, that all I'd spend my time doing.<BR/><BR/>If you know someone that needs intervention because of chemical abuse, that usually don't do any good anyway ... until THEY want it. So what is the answer? <BR/>Yeah I don't always do it, but I do believe in NOT JUDGING OTHERS UNTIL YOU HAVE WALKED A MILE IN THEIR SHOES. A little Compassion toward others really isn't a bad thing. But then I don't believe people who find nothing wrong with taking some one else's life just because they feel like it, should be allowed to walk around free among society, either. So many things in this life are just ...ambiguous.Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15651225350506387416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316617410436977874.post-52688225415738724472009-02-27T15:23:00.000-05:002009-02-27T15:23:00.000-05:00The parents, spouses, children, neighbors and frie...The parents, spouses, children, neighbors and friends you wrote about are all good people which puts you in very good company. The fault is not with any of them for believing in their relative or friend the fault lies with the criminal. Like you after the facts start coming in and they start looking hard at those facts instead of protecting the wrongdoer they need to help the wrongdoer stand up and take responsibility for their crime or get help for their sickness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316617410436977874.post-61266835289225530072009-02-27T14:26:00.000-05:002009-02-27T14:26:00.000-05:00Thanks Jan, Leah and Rj. I think there is a perfe...Thanks Jan, Leah and Rj. I think there is a perfect balance somewhere between the reaction I had and instantly believing any accusations. I know I'll reach for it if something like this happens again.Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02862216235066807651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316617410436977874.post-75331130785262009022009-02-27T10:49:00.000-05:002009-02-27T10:49:00.000-05:00This was an excellent piece. I am trying to build...This was an excellent piece. I am trying to build a post myself in light of all the murder-suicides and media comments about how "nice" and "normal" the perpetrators were. NOTHING surprises me these days.<BR/><BR/>The comment by Leah above, is a popular take, but a dangerous one--as people often assume the innocence of those close to them, automatically, and in spite of facts and contrary evidence. And thus people often assume, from the beginning, that victims are lying, vindictive, and deceitful, in spite of a LACK of evidence to prove it so.<BR/><BR/>"Facts" are ignored evidenced by family court dramas and rape cases and all the murderers and cowards who get away with their crimes.Rjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16580925465853642953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316617410436977874.post-71275141583585196972009-02-27T08:43:00.000-05:002009-02-27T08:43:00.000-05:00I don't think there is any shame in having doubts ...I don't think there is any shame in having doubts at first. After all many people have lied with accusations for some of the reasons you mentioned. I probably would have the same reaction until the facts started to surface. Only then can you come to an informed conclusion about a person's guilt or innocence.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6316617410436977874.post-50918038771345004972009-02-27T01:57:00.000-05:002009-02-27T01:57:00.000-05:00It is very hard to believe that someone you know a...It is very hard to believe that someone you know and have spent time with could do something horrible. I was with my son's family 3-4 times a week. I was shocked. My daughter-in-law's friends and family were shocked. One of Devon's first grade friends summed it all up - he told his mother that he didn't believe it because mommys don't hurt their children. He said, "Boy, she's going to be mad when she gets out of jail at all these lies."<BR/><BR/>Isn't that what we really want to believe? Mommies and daddies don't hurt their children. Wives don't hurt their husbands and vice versa. At least the people we know would never do such a thing. When the mask falls off it's a devastating shock that leaves you reeling.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com